On Being Nice and All That "should" Come With It.
On Being Nice and All That "should" Come With It.
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Hey friends,
An impromptu thought train on the idea of being nice and deserving a certain treatment because of that.
Please like if you like, and share if you wish.
It’s really an exclusive idea isn’t it? If you’re “nice, then others must be “nasty”. And if being nice is supposed to warrant you a certain degree of protection or treatment, then being nasty warrants another degree or lackthereof entirely.
So, you essentially split society into those who are worthy and those who are not.
Then you have to decide on who/what judges that, what’re the criteria? Then you have to test it, reasoning backwards, and ask are all those with who’re treated in way X, and with things Y, nasty/nice people
I suppose that once you do that, and realise that’s not the case, then you have to decide whether the world is broken or your worldview is? Those who think the former trend to isolation and, typically if male, violence (E.g incell school shooters, disenfranchised racists)
All in all, it’s a really immature way of looking at things.
It is attractive though, To some degree, in some shape or form, I thought that way up until about…22 or so. Can’t knock anyone for it.
Granted it’s a somewhat useful world view for children, who generally can’t grasp nuance and complexity yet, but it’s always supposed to be something that you grow out if - you know, when you’re developed enough to do so.
It’s a distortion of the truth. Because the truth is that society is reciprocal and being ethical and kind, coupled with being of value to others, does generally, in a functioning society, grant you goodwill and favours from other members of society. Sometimes these favours are things like “not doing you harm” or “not cutting a shady deal with you”.
That’s what it’s getting at.
But there’s more to it than “not being mean” or “just being nice”.
Not being negative isn’t automatically positive. The number 0 exists too.
Hope that made you think
- O